Someone I Met on Tinder Recorded a Nude Video Call and Is Now Blackmailing Me. What Should I Do?

That’s sextortion. It’s illegal in most countries, and you are a victim of a crime. Do not pay, do not engage, and don’t panic. You are not alone. Save the evidence and report it. Help is available. 💙

What Is Sextortion?

Sextortion is a form of online blackmail where someone threatens to share your intimate images or videos unless you meet their demands, usually money, more explicit content, or something else.

What To Do Immediately 🚨

1. Do NOT Pay or Give In.
   Paying won’t make them stop—many come back with more demands. Stand your ground.

2. Cut Off Contact.
   Block them on every platform they’ve used (Tinder, WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.). Don’t argue or negotiate.

3. Collect Evidence.
   Take screenshots of all messages, threats, usernames, and contact info. Save everything safely.

4. Report the Account.
   Use Tinder’s and other platforms’ tools to report harassment, blackmail, or non-consensual image threats.

5. Report to Authorities.
   Contact your local police or cybercrime unit. Blackmail is a crime—and law enforcement can help.

6. Use Trusted Online Reporting Tools.
   If you’re unsure about going to the police:
   • In the U.S., report anonymously to the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3): www.ic3.gov

   • Globally, check your country’s cybercrime agency or use resources like:
     • StopNCII.org – for image takedowns

     • Cyber Civil Rights Initiative

7. Get Support.
   You don’t have to deal with this alone. Support services and hotlines can walk you through next steps confidentially.

What If They Threaten to Share the Video?

This is a common tactic used to scare victims into acting quickly. Most sextortionists are bluffing and never actually release anything. Still, take it seriously, document everything, and report it.

If something is shared, there are ways to take it down. Platforms and legal systems now act fast to protect victims.

Words of Support 💙

• You are not to blame. This person violated your trust and your privacy.

• You deserve safety and respect.

• Help is out there. You are stronger than this moment.

If you need help reporting, finding a takedown service, or speaking to someone confidentially, our team is here for you.

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